There was recently a video released on twitter of a young girl giving oral sex to a young boy behind a random building while his friends were watching and also recording the act. Now of course, this is twitter, you could imagine just how fast the video spread and soon enough a significant amount of people saw it and the girl’s name became a trending topic. One of the many common responses from this video, particularly from males, was that the video was a prime example as to why they wouldn’t want a daughter when it came time to have children. This ideology isn’t new to me, I’ve heard this since high school and till this day I’ve looked at it as one big double standard. Now let me start off by saying that this isn’t one of those “this is whats wrong with today’s society” rants. I simply want to present to you all (especially the gentlemen) why this “I don’t want a daughter” ideology doesn’t make sense (at least to me personally).

Based on what I’ve observed by a significant amount of my males peers, before you find “the one” it’s all about getting into as many panties as you can. You meet a girl, get her number, and  spit the necessary game to either get her to give you head or get in her pants. For whatever reason, you don’t think this is wrong. When trying to get her to do the deed, you’re not supposed to think “hey, this is another man’s daughter,” especailly when she finally gives it up. Lets role play though. Lets say you unfortunately have a daughter and also fortunately have a son. Your daughter, you would treat like a prized possession. You wouldn’t want any boy to go as far as even look, touch, or God forbid, have sex with her (or out comes the shotgun). Your son on the other hand, he can do whatever he wants. He can have and sleep around with as many women as he pleases. This is what makes him a “man”. This thinking is common among young men and I’m wondering if anyone catches the big contradiction here. The same guys who are out here sleeping with and taking advantage of all these women (who by default have fathers) would be crushed and completely devastated if A) they themselves had a daughter and B) she was some promiscuous booty call that sleeps around. On the flip side, if their son was doing this same thing, they would be somewhat proud. Like I stated earlier, one big double standard. What’s also surprising is how RARE it is to hear a girl saying she doesn’t want a son for the fear of him being promiscuous. If anything, they have the same fear as men in terms of having a daughter but whatever the cause may be, girls just aren’t as strongly opinionated on the subject as guys are.

I think the most baffling  part of this ideology is that it seems to have been accepted by both sexes. The majority of the comments on twitter pertaining to the video were bashing the young girl. The consensus from both men and women was that the girl was stupid and didn’t have any respect for herself. I rarely came across the opinion that the boy should have more respect for the girl, none the less himself. The same applies to today’s “body count” concept. It essentially plays out that the more women men sleep with, the better and the less men women sleep with, the better. Women want a man who is more sexually experienced while men want a women who has as few sexual partners as possible. The more men she sleeps with (the higher her body count), the less “wifeable” she is. Rarely do you ever come across a women who desires men to have a low or non-existent body count. It even almost seems like female virgins are desired more than male virgins.

Our job at Upperthinking is to inspire greatness in the everyday man (and woman). Greatness is attached to a high moral standard and a high level of thinking and reasoning that applies to both men and women. This logic and reasoning behind guys not wanting daughters is completely flawed. Gentlemen, if you’re out here exploiting these women and think you’re entitled to say you don’t want a daughter, you’re misguided. Your own actions are the cause to your reasoning. Karma is real, what you yourself  are doing CAN be done to your  daughter as well. Plus its not like you have any control over what sex your children will be so essentially, some of you are going to have to deal with having one. This post is to encourage our male followers to hold themselves to higher standards. I feel like if young men had more respect for young women (and if young women had more respect for themselves), having a daughter wouldn’t be an issue. I digress.